Friday, November 25, 2011

Pets as Family? You Bet!

As I mentioned previously, this morning we said good bye to our Lab/Beagle mix.  Last year, we said good-bye to our Beagle. Both rescued, these dogs entered our lives in 1996 and 1997 respectively.  It's been a very long time since I slept without a dog in or next to my bed (when I was at home), and I think it still has not hit me.  Thank you for all your thoughts.

Being the people we are, in this house, dogs are family.  Are they on a par with my children?  No (but they certainly think they are).  Still, we made an emotional attachment and a commitment.  We took our dogs with us to Germany and back (the only two times in their lives they were ever in a crate), and nursed them through old age. There were some difficulties, but I would not have given up having my puppies for anything.

Magic, deteriorated rapidly because he had degenerative arthritis in his legs and spine, which were exacerbating by running, jumping and playing ( in his mind he was still four).  Since we didn't realize how ill he was, I had lately been investigating dog rescue and adoption. I figured he could use a friend and we were used to having two dogs. The dog in question at the time, Trevor, is shown here.
I know I need time to grieve and adjust. I also know that none of my dogs can be replaced, any new dog would be an addition to my family. I know well that there is no such thing as a free pet, and that living on a fixed income, dog care is a definite budget category.  Still, after the holidays, I will be looking for a new family member. Whether Trevor will still be available, I don't know.  I do know I need a pet (read dog) in my life.

So, I'll take a holiday break. I'll adjust to missing my baby, and deal with the hole he leaves in our lives.  I'll also look forward to bringing a new family member home.

Someday.

10 comments:

  1. I know this will be a sad time for you not having your furbaby with you. Praying for you during this time of sadness. We animal lovers know that there is always another furbaby who will sashay their way into our hearts. Trevor was absolutely adorable. There is something about his face and eyes. They light up.

    Lori S.

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  2. Our decision to add a dog back into our family will begin in earnest after Christmas. A pet just adds so much to life and teaches us about love day after day. Yes, there are costs and hassles. But, isn't the investment worth it? Obviously, you and we agree: Yes!

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  3. So sorry. We lost our potbellied pig Bud on Thanksgiving. But we remember!

    No more pigs for us, though. We'll make do with just one cat.

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  4. So sorry, Barb. Loving a pet means we have to do the best for them when the time comes and it isn't easy. Yes we need time to grieve but this time (lost my Zoya in March) I found a new baby (Chloe) in July and adopted her. She just turned 6 months last week and while at times we inadvertently call her "Zoya" we love her and are glad to have her in our family. You will know when the time is right for your family, too.

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  5. I'm so sorry to hear that. We lost our Beagle baby a few years ago and the wound is still raw. They really are such a great part of our lives (and our's slept IN the bed, under the covers buried down by our feet.) That's one of the reasons I'm reluctant to get another. I know they are so worth it for the many many years we have them, but losing them is SOOOO hard!

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  6. I'm so sorry to hear that. We lost our Beagle baby a few years ago and the wound is still raw. They really are such a great part of our lives (and our's slept IN the bed, under the covers buried down by our feet.) That's one of the reasons I'm reluctant to get another. I know they are so worth it for the many many years we have them, but losing them is SOOOO hard!

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  7. P.S. You are a glutton for punishment if you are considering another Beagle! They are so sweet but so naughty!

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  8. I understand ... we adopted 2 kittens after we lost our oldest cat. Watching their antics has helped to ease the ache.

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  9. I had a "mutt" from the time I was 4 til I was 18 and I was completely heartbroken when she was hit by a car. Since then I've had cats but lately I've been feeling the urge to have a dog again. A person I've been visiting has a boxer - they are so friendly and affectionate. I will wait til I'm settled in PEI first, then the search will begin.
    Yes, you definitely need time to grieve - they ARE members of the family, treasured ones.

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  10. oh my goodness - I've been out of pocket and just saw your posts...hugs..I have a lab and german shepherd who are nearly 11 - I see them slowing down a bit but I pray I get some more good years from them. I can't imagine being without a dog either and none will ever replace my girls but I can make room for antoher when the time is right and I find the right dog.
    Susanna

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